Fear
I love the question "What would you do if you were not afraid?" The answer, in most circumstances, is exactly the right thing TO DO!
"I would tell my boss, that this project has a fatal flaw."
"I would break up with my boyfriend."
"I would go back to school and get my masters degree."
Many of us consistently make decisions based on fear, rather than decisions based on hope or faith.
Employers who are thinking of replacing their helpers usually ask me to promise "not to tell the helper". Of course, we will always protect the employer's confidentiality. When I ask "Why don't you want to tell her?" the answer usually begins with "I AM AFRAID..."
"I am afraid she'll harm my child."
"I am afraid she'll spit in the soup."
"I'M AFRAID!"
What would you do if you weren't afraid? Why not try doing that? We sometimes hear back that an Arrow lady has been given a visa to go to Canada. If I ask the helper, "Did you tell your employer about your plans, so they could arrange for a replacement, the answer is always the same. "No way!" I then ask, "Why not?" Can you guess the answer?
"I AM AFRAID!" Afraid of what?
"Afraid they will fire me out."
"Afraid they will do something to harm my visa application."
"I AM AFRAID!"
What would you do if you were not afraid? Try doing that, it is probably the right thing to do? Why don't we take the risk of trusting the other person? Of believing that they are a decent human being, who will not "spit in our soup", "injure our baby", "attempt to ruin our dreams of going to Canada".
What would you do, IF you were not afraid?
